Relaxation

The Soft Advantages

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When things go BUMP in a big way, it’s easy to get sucked into the vortex of judgment.  For example, last summer, while I was joyfully down the writing rabbit hole, I got a phone call at 5 o’clock on a Friday afternoon.  The man on the other end of the line introduced himself as a fire investigator for the town where a rental condo of mine was located.  I immediately felt a stone form…

Authenticity

Authenticity

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I am authentic when I speak and do what I really want.   I want to engage with others in the same way.  So please tell me what you really think.  Tell me what you really want, now what you think I want to hear.  If you are inclined to not change to be authentic, then I simply walk away with ease and grace.  There is nothing wrong with you or with anything.  This just may…

I Don’t Know Everything Yet

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The mind likes to think it has all the answers. My mind coach used to have a saying that said, “Just for today, I will remember that I don’t know everything yet.” I used to get tripped up on how that thought could really help me in life. I got it, but I didn’t really GET it. When you allow the mind to suspend judgment and to let go of needing to have all the…

Know Who You Are Talking To

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Within you, within each of us, I believe there are two “selves.”  There’s this little self who seems to emerge from the mind.  And there is the Wise Self, who comes from the heart, the essence of you. When the little self is at the cockpit of your thoughts, there is lots of chatter.  Most thoughts originating from here include a judgement of some sort, a “knowing everything.”  Thoughts usually contain the words “shouldn’t or…

YOu to YoU: The Most Important Relationship

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For years I chased love outside myself in the form of Prince Charmings, career and money.  I thought if I just…..fill in the blank….had enough….fill in the blank again…I would find sustainable joy and peace.  What I didn’t realize was that I was running from myself.  All this chasing was a diversionary tactic to avoid the fact that I really didn’t know deeply who I was and wasn’t very connected to my heart.  And, furthermore,…

Having to do Everything!!!

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Having to do everything was a power play that I used to do to help myself feel worthy and needed.  I would run around and around doing it ALL in hopes that other people’s validation would help me fill the giant hole inside that craved to be seen and heard.  I was exhausted.  I wondered why I couldn’t get a handle on life.  My ego would be temporarily rewarded when someone acknowledged what I had…

The Soft Advantages

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When things go BUMP in a big way, it’s easy to get sucked into the vortex of judgment. For example, last summer, while I was joyfully down the writing rabbit hole, I got a phone call at 5 o’clock on a Friday afternoon. The man on the other end of the line introduced himself as a fire investigator for the town where a rental condo of mine was located. I immediately felt a stone form…

Navigating From the Heart

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Navigating differences of opinion, (often known as “conflict”), can be tricky and delicate. To stay firmly inyour own camp, and to speak authentically from the heart is a beautiful art form that requires patience, and practice. When we approach differences or challenges from a place of judgement, it is easy to activate defense mechanisms on either side. Today, if you find yourself in a situation of difference of opinion or encountering the desire to express…

Seduction of Your Spirit

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What does it mean to seduce your own spirit?  To invoke your own presence from the depths of your being so that you feel fully alive and ready to embrace the world?  How do you begin to live from depth and realization in each moment that you are divinely awesome?  Recognizing the flow within takes devotion, reverence and showing up moment by moment. Just for a moment today dive deeply into silence.  Put your attention…

Only Go As Fast

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I will only go as fast as the slowest part of me feels safe to go -lyrics from song by Karen Drucker  Take it slow. Slowing down allows you to dive deeper into yourself, to get to know yourself better.  When we live from the heart, we are mindful of how we are feeling in every moment and allow that to be the navigation from which we live life.  Focus on this very moment.  Feel…